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Re: Chuffing heck

Postby Wigan White » 10 Mar 2019, 16:40

Selby White wrote:
PockWhite wrote:
ChilwellWhite wrote:Woken up to snow this morning :wtf:


Went to a show & had rather a late night, but have woken up to 21°c, blue skies & sunshine. Bit windy, but hey....



Similar here but without the wind. :D


Rumour has it that PockWhite suffers quite a lot with wind. :lol:
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Re: Chuffing heck

Postby johnh » 10 Mar 2019, 18:16

Just had a really violent hail storm. Looks like its been snowing there's so much on the ground. Quite windy so it was hammering against the windows like machine gun fire. As I type this there is some thunder too.
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Re: Chuffing heck

Postby johnh » 13 Mar 2019, 19:41

Guy did a good job fixing my garden fence. Had to call him back as the high winds at the week-end demolished several posts and panels. :shock:
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Re: Chuffing heck

Postby Davycc » 13 Mar 2019, 20:53

johnh wrote:Guy did a good job fixing my garden fence. Had to call him back as the high winds at the week-end demolished several posts and panels. :shock:


Hope he didn’t take a fence
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Re: Chuffing heck

Postby johnh » 27 Mar 2019, 18:37

Got all my fences fixed, guys did a good job. As my fence goes along my neighbours patio, he said he would pay for a couple of panels that didn't need replacing, so that it all matched in. Went out today and saw a guy scarifying the lawn at a house 4 doors away. I asked him if he would do mine. He originally said it would be the end of April as he was so busy, but he then came and said he would do it later this afternoon. He's finished and done a really good job. While all this was going on I was sat in my armchair with the Daily Telegraph crossword and a cup of tea! :D
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Re: Chuffing heck

Postby rigger » 28 Mar 2019, 03:16

johnh wrote: ... scarifying the lawn ...


:wtf:

What's that then ?
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Re: Chuffing heck

Postby CorkWhite » 28 Mar 2019, 05:40

I normally wouldn't be posting this as its a personal matter and i'm not really into sharing personal matters too much, but I am in a far away country with few options to talk to people who i would consider very close friends, I have plenty of associates and friends but few that are close by i can call on anytime.

The other night i was just finished work and my wife was outside drinking tequila which she had been for a few hours with some friends. I had a few shots myself and after an hour more the friends went away and my wife started crying..... I was confused yet i thought she was just overly fused up with alcohol and emotionally tired and easy to weep. But as she spoke she reveled how dark her life feels. I instantly started to feel i had done something wrong and she said it wasn't me at all. Over the course of another hour or so my questions were full of concern and although she tried to communicate more about things it was erratic at best.

There was no argument no badness in her words, she just kept referring to how low she has been feeling, (we had just moved house and i felt it could have affected her as it was quiet stressful at the time). she said it was more than that. Four kids and a big kid (me) to deal with everyday must be also affecting her i thought. she said it does affect her at times but its manageable. She told me she was going to the toilet so i said okay.... a minute later she let out a wailing cry and i was asking if she was okay, she wouldn't answer and the door was locked.

Underneath the door i could see blood coming out. Straight away i nearly dropped in fright. I leaned back and kicked in the door only to find she had slashed her wrist with a razor blade and there was so much blood on her and all over the floor. It was a grisly scene. I called our eldest son to help me get her into the car and rushed her to the hospital. It took me about three minutes driving like a lunatic for a journey which normally takes 15 to twenty. I didn't give a damn about any traffic police or anyone else for that matter. I was after trying to tie up the arm to help the stem of blood which was still oozing out.

When i arrived at the accident and emergency section of the hospital the orderlies were far too slow in coming out i gave them some harsh words and then they could see my wife who at this stage was unresponsive and the blood all over me too. They got her inside and she was near death and tried to usher me out of the area they were working on her and i said the only way you're getting me out of this room is by killing me. I was thinking the worst at the time and in a panic i guess. They heeded my words though. I was thinking if these were the last few moments of my time with my wife i was going to hold her as much as possible.

The end result was the laceration was very deep but it slightly cut the main artery but my quick response and crazy driving most likely saved her life. another few minutes and i was going to be a widower. I was lucky to know all my families blood types and any pre-conditions they have or not So they administered dextrose and some injection of vitamin K to add more clotting to the blood. She went for an operation once she was stable enough. What filled my eyes with tears most of all that night was Just before she was heading into the operating theater she woke up and asked for me. I never felt that much love in my heart until that moment. It was the biggest scare in my life and i was grateful that she was awake and going to pull through.

I have thought about this since then and spoke to my own doctor who was the surgeon who stitched her up that night. we spoke at length about things and my wife has been having depression for awhile which was a build up of many things to do with work, kids, moving house etc. Depression is so subtle it tells you in your own voice that you don't have it. I can recognize it in someone else but i didn't see it in my wife at all. She never talks much about her emotions and i have booked her in for some personal counselling sessions for her to try and open up more, which i will join her after a few sessions to see where i can help her come out more of herself.

I understand this is a football website, but this is something that can affect us all at anytime, through ourselves or our loved ones, I feel terrible that i couldn't see it in my wife and i realize now that for loved ones we have to be even more vigilant in how we look at them. We forget how easy it is and how they do things for us out of routine and we don't think any further and plod along thinking they are fine. Love them deeply everyday even when they are angry with you. Let them know you're really there for them no matter what. Keep an open-mind. I was so close to losing my wife the other night and i never saw that coming. Today i feel 1000% better but my already grey hair must have went a few shades whiter.

My apologies if this has affected anyone by reading this, My aim was to hopefully do a personal inventory of myself and in someway help anyone else who is or has been through this before.

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Re: Chuffing heck

Postby Davycc » 28 Mar 2019, 08:16

CW mate I hope with help you and your'e good lady can get to the root cause(s) and get things back to a better place. Your actions no doubt saved your wife. You're right depression is a devious deceitful thing only showing it's self at the last minute. I do hope you have people around you who will realise you both need support. Whilst you certainly have forum friends online here always willing to listen you really need people with you in person...find them they will be there, good people are amazing if you open up. In saying that sometimes its easier and good just to write things down as you just have.

Please find those good people over there that can help and keep an eye on the young ones too, of course I know you will.

Keep us posted mate.
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Re: Chuffing heck

Postby rigger » 28 Mar 2019, 08:54

Jesus, mate - that's awful.
Please feel free to talk about it in here or privately if it helps.
Football is insignificant when something like that happens.

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Re: Chuffing heck

Postby Another Northern Soul » 28 Mar 2019, 09:18

Oh man, I'm so sorry for the awful situation. Thank you for posting it, that's what friends are for even if most of us haven't met you in person.
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